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I've been hurt so many times by people I trusted. IRL. I won't go into details. I've decided to return to my old "coping" mechanism, of isolation. Don't get close, don't agree to talk to anyone every day, don't share who you really are. Dont care "too much".
This is in Real Life, (3D) I've known people there who have used and hurt me emotionally. I think they think I'm easy to hurt. ![]() ![]() ![]()
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"I walked a mile with Pleasure; she chattered all the way, But left me none the wiser for all she had to say. I walked a mile with Sorrow and ne'er a word said she; But oh, the things I learned from her when Sorrow walked with me!" (Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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Sorry you are hurting.
![]() probably getting away from hurtful people is good but I think it would be a good thing if you could try to meet a new person, one that is kind..... (yea, I know easy to say- not easy to do..... I do really know! ![]() psst-- BTW this is "mandyfins" back from a long absence. |
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I, too, have been viciously preyed upon, people who knew they could dominate me they went ahead and hurt me over and over..namely, my family ![]() I had to set boundaries with them, even become a little assertive and confront them, which did not feel natural to me in the least.. but if it is friendships, you can discard these people with a click of DELETE from your cell phone directory or DELETE from your facebook account I have found true, true, oh so true friends to help me get over the hurt from my family and I found them in/by: 1. Churches, church events I have joined 2. Support groups I have joined for depression 3. Giving out my number to people who I had a good feeling for from the getko, who were obviously warm, caring, loving people 4. finding an interest (for me, karaoke..) that brings people together 5. Choosing to spend my precious time with uplifters, people that do not judge/tear down ever, ever, ever You are soooo wonderful here at PC, Fuzzybear, you deserve the WORLD then more on top of that.. ...Now, if you can make practical suggestions, apply them, there are GOOD CARING PEOPLE OUT THERE I promise to you, I promise to me, The trick is finding them, and not letting yourself get closed up by the assholes of this world Fuzzybear if you close yourself to everyone including the good out there.. ..........then the assholes have won.. Forgive them, forgiving is a creative act that opens yourself up, it is an act you do for yourself_!!! Do not reconcile with assholes, but do forgive FOR YOUR OWN SAKE, and go in peace..... Please try the places I have mentioned, or at least think about it, sending deep love and understanding your way............................... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
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I was struck by these quotes:
The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration. ~Pearl S. BuckI know the toll isolation exacts. There is a void. Nonetheless, I lack some social skills. One therapist was kind enough to tell me I was a social retard. Maybe so? This article speaks to me: http://www.alive.com/6980a17a2.php?s..._bread_cramb=5 Particularly this quote:“Loneliness is a greater risk for morbidity or mortality than cigarette smoking,” says Nicholas Epley, assistant professor of behavioral science at the University of Chicago. I was able to quit smoking years ago. Maybe there is time yet for me to transform the beast? Fuzzybear, will you join my quest? |
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When you say "put yourself out there", what if you do and no one seems to acknowledge you? Then what? I keep trying, but I don't find anyone who wants to become a friend. This has been going on for years.
Is having trouble making friends a symptom of bipolar, never having been taught how to, or some other kind of disorder? Do we worry about rejection more than others? Do they feel like bipols are like chameleons and they don't want to get close because they don't know if we are goofing around with them? Lots of questions, I know. How can other people get to see them? Thanks |
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(((Fuzzy))) I hear you loud & clear on that one. (And I'm reading!)
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