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Old 09-10-2017, 07:12 AM   #1
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How are you with eye contact?

As for me, I don't mind looking at someone's eyes, but it scares me when they look back. For some reason I feel embarassed when people see me looking at their eyes. Also I feel more comfortable talking with my eyes downcast instead of ahead or up (which is necessary for eye contact). Lately I've been trying to look at people's eyes from over my glasses instead of through, so everything including them is fuzzy, that's less scary for me.
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Old 09-13-2017, 10:09 AM   #2
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Eye contact makes me very uncomfortable even with my own daughter. It really bothers me cause it's polite to look at people when they are talking.
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Old 09-14-2017, 01:47 PM   #3
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I'm only good at eye contact with my own parents. I am working on finding tricks to at least make it look like I am looking at people. I have learned people see me as extremely shy or not wanting to talk because of the trouble with eye contact. I am trying to learn to become better at this with my psychologist. I have heard some people manage by looking at the mouth or eyebrows instead. For now I haven't found what works yet, but I suppose it's different for everyone.
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Old 09-19-2017, 05:50 PM   #4
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Eye contact did not come naturally to me, I had to learn it. I seem to have picked it up rather well and now I have little trouble with it.
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Old 09-22-2017, 08:40 AM   #5
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I used to avoid it at any cost. However, there is one time I tasked to do MC (master of ceremony) in an event, so I have to practice it. It helps a lot until now.
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Old 09-30-2017, 01:21 PM   #6
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I tend to use eye contact only when I am comfortable with someone, but even then, not all the time. I do find it quite uncomfortable, so if I am talking about something that is more emotionally driven, I tend to not use eye contact at all. I mainly use eye contact to empathize what I am saying, or to show that I am paying attention.

Sometimes, if I like someone a lot (like friendships or whatever), I'll just stare into their eyes, which I also know is unacceptable in society. I like to try to memorize their eye colour.
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I hate it. I have my good days and bad but my husband is the only person I can look in the eye and be okay with it. As long as you don't make me do it we're good.
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I hate it when people make eye contact with me unless I initiate it. I'm not sure why but it makes me very uncomfortable.
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hate it hate it hate it! Iím okay with looking at someoneís eyes when they look away but I canít hold eye contact for more than a second without feeling so uncomfortable, like my neck/back of my head does this weird vibration thing and I have to look away. usually I look at my hands or just past them
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I am trying to get better with eye contact. For many years I have avoided looking at others (I still do at times), and walk with my head down.
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