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Old 01-07-2017, 10:06 PM   #11
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I tried to convince myself for a very long time that I could fit in and identity with what was important to others. But it always made me very unhappy or turned and disaster.

It has been quite a struggle. But now I have context for this... it was not something I really considered, that my intelligence and the way i process information would be a barrier. But that is the truth of it.
I'm curious (because I'm very similar), in what way did trying to identify with others make you unhappy? I've known for years that my intelligence is part of the reason I struggle to relate to people, though I have no idea what my IQ is.
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Old 03-04-2017, 11:09 PM   #12
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Quite the opposite for me. I have always been noticeably different than the rest of society, and rather than avoid it I've learned to embrace it. It's quite freeing, for me anyway.
I know this is true about me, not really something I like or embrassed. But it is the truth that I do think differently and look at things with a minority view. I have gotten use to it.

After I have moved I will be taking group CBT to address some of my differences. Having confirmed through the all the test I took that in fact I am different helps explain contextually choices I have made.

I think now I would like to explore why I have limited attachment.
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high functioning and aspergers aren't used to describe the disorder anymore. Asd or autistic spectrum disorder is what you hear these days.
but we will all still call is asperger's for a long time to come.
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but we will all still call is asperger's for a long time to come.
that is true... even my psychologist & therapist use it interchangeably... In this case LVL1 Autism and Aspergers is the same thing.
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Hi Snarky, how is it going? Give us an update. Love you.
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I know this is true about me, not really something I like or embrassed. But it is the truth that I do think differently and look at things with a minority view. I have gotten use to it.



After I have moved I will be taking group CBT to address some of my differences. Having confirmed through the all the test I took that in fact I am different helps explain contextually choices I have made.



I think now I would like to explore why I have limited attachment.


Did you ever find an answer?
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I tried to convince myself for a very long time that I could fit in and identity with what was important to others. But it always made me very unhappy or turned and disaster.



It has been quite a struggle. But now I have context for this... it was not something I really considered, that my intelligence and the way i process information would be a barrier. But that is the truth of it.


Iím def finding that my intelligence can be a challenge ...
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I received a call today about the test results from cognitive testing. the call was about that & when I can come in for further testing & to develop a plan.



I found out something i really did not want to know about, my IQ which I had received from similar testing when I was a boy. It makes me feel more isolated then before. When I was a kid I tested out with 145...now it is 158. This scares the hell out of me. I can not express how this confirmation just makes me feel more alienated. It was also confirmed I have high functioning Aspergers.



I knew I was different or more to the point could not relate to others very well, and it has often been a struggle: from being made fun of by both adults and my fellow classmates. Told I was weird, strange or eccentric...I am sure you have heard these things to...ugh



And this further exacerbates my personal life with my primary relationship which is already more complicated then I can handle somedays. I really need that support...



I hope whatever plan my psycologist comes up with helps me cope with this.


I imagine a relationship between two highly intelligent individuals would be challenging but whatís the alternative? I mean I suppose a genius man does not need an intellectual equal if she loves him . Iím trying to imagine that scenario. Perhaps a genius would find a simple woman a comfort. I myself tried that way and it was destructive. This is such a complex topic. I would love it if you would come back and participate.
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I'm so sorry everyone is struggling Sending many hugs to everyone
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I imagine a relationship between two highly intelligent individuals would be challenging but whatís the alternative? I mean I suppose a genius man does not need an intellectual equal if she loves him . Iím trying to imagine that scenario. Perhaps a genius would find a simple woman a comfort. I myself tried that way and it was destructive. This is such a complex topic. I would love it if you would come back and participate.
Intelligence has nothing to do with relationships. Similar to how a disability has nothing to do with driving as long as you're able to drive and do it skillfully. I've been on both extremes of intelligence, I used to be very smart but now I am only somewhat smart academically and much dumb when it comes to socializing. It's related with my dysthymia.
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