Psych Central

Go Back   Forums at Psych Central > >



advertisement
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 12-15-2018, 10:30 PM   #1
kcgw56
Newly Joined
kcgw56 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: TN
Posts: 1
Confused Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

Clearly, there is little information available regarding attachment disorders. I cannot find the information for which I am looking in the DSM, and I know that's because it isn't in there.

Is there an attachment disorder that relates to a adult (male) overly "attached" to his mother in the sense that his wife must be exactly the same as his mother? He lived with her until his mid 20's and mentioned laying his head in her lap and her tickling his back (which I found weird at that age). Anytime he and I have issues, he runs to his parent's house, and has no problem disclosing our relationship issues, although he certainly points all blame to me and makes himself seem innocent. His mom can't seem to not treat him like a child. He expects me to be equally submissive (she didn't work and her husband is a preacher) and also equally attentive to the children (again, she didn't work, and her husband was emotionally absent).
kcgw56 is offline   Reply With Quote
Hugs from:

advertisement
Old 12-16-2018, 06:30 PM   #2
Skeezyks
Apparition
 
Skeezyks's Avatar
Skeezyks has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2015
Location: L'Etoile du Nord
Posts: 16,893 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

3 yr Member
12.6k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Smile Re: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

Hello kcgw: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral.

I'm not a mental health professional & I don't know much about attachment disorders. Hopefully there will be other members, here on PC, who will have some knowledge they can share. In the meantime, however, here are links to 9 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of attachment disorders:

What Is Attachment and Why Is It Important?

How to Change Your Attachment Style

What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It? | Happily Imperfect

Avoidant Personality Disorder

16 Signs of an Avoidant or Unavailable Partner | Love Matters

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-step...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/podcas...ment-disorder/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psych...ed-attachment/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.
Skeezyks is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Old 12-17-2018, 01:29 AM   #3
piggy momma
Grand Member
 
piggy momma's Avatar
piggy momma loves all pigs. ALL. THE. PIGS.
 
Member Since: Oct 2018
Location: Canada
Posts: 905 (SuperPoster!)
49 hugs
given
Default Re: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

Hi KCGW56.

There is TONNES of information out there on attachment disorders, but I wonder if you're maybe looking for the wrong information?

Regression is not an uncommon coping mechanism for adults when faced with stress or conflict. It's not necessarily a healthy option, but it is an option.

Have you talked to your husband about his behaviours? They are not likely to go away without professional help which may include couple's counselling as well.

I hope you can find some support and info to work through this.
piggy momma is online now   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Old 12-17-2018, 03:25 AM   #4
MickeyCheeky
Wise Elder
 
MickeyCheeky's Avatar
MickeyCheeky My echo is the only voice coming back
 
Member Since: Jun 2016
Location: Italy
Posts: 9,087 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

2 yr Member
26.8k hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

I'm so sorry you're struggling, kcgw56 The only way to know for sure is to see a doctor and get a proper diagnosis. Have you talked to your husband about this? I feel like that's important. Remember that he's the one who has to decide whether to get help or not. You can only do so much to help. If he doesn't, I'm afraid you may want to reconsider this relationship. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this
MickeyCheeky is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-22-2018, 03:05 PM   #5
Sporty McDaniel
Member
Sporty McDaniel has no updates.
 
Member Since: Nov 2018
Location: North East America
Posts: 34
My Mood: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

3 hugs
given
Default Re: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

Let me be as gentle and as kind as I can while also being direct...I don't know how if it's possible to be any more gentle than the following: if you don't already have children, don't have any, and if you already do, don't have any more.



People with issues can ONLY pass them on...do not try to have a family concurrent with getting help for someone like this.


Again, let me apologize for being blunt, but coming from the background I come from I feel it's imperative to make the statement I did.


People only rarely change, and that's only if they want to, and even then it's a life-long endeavor---and usually not 100% successful.


Sorry!
Sporty McDaniel is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 12-22-2018, 03:22 PM   #6
AB2371
Member
 
AB2371's Avatar
AB2371 Editing
 
Member Since: Mar 2017
Location: in panic
Posts: 353
My Mood: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

156 hugs
given
Default Re: Can This Signify An Attachment Disorder

I agree with you to a small degree. Our world is overpopulated and majority of people raising children are misguided and unwilling to make changes needed from mistakes made in previous generations. That or they are ill informed. Most can't or won't 'change', grow or mature, because they believe they can't or don't know how. My belief is that we are all blooming beings bouncing around each other, reflective of those who we surround ourselves with
AB2371 is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT -5. The time now is 06:52 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




advertisement

 

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice,
diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider. .
Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.

 

HomeAbout UsContact UsPrivacy PolicyTerms of UseDisclaimer
Forums HomeCommunity GuidelinesHelp


 
Helplines and Lifelines