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Old 07-09-2018, 02:27 AM   #1
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I deeply love someone with RAD. I just realized her behavior fits this perfectly. I'd like to help her out. She has been dangerous as she exerted control over me but the way she orchestrated it was also genius. This is all new to me. After describing her behavior a friend identified it with Attachment Disorder. I now have something concrete to research.

As I said, I deeply love this person. I feel I can help her in some way. I could very well fit a model vulnerable to manipulation by someone with this condition. I am an empath. I know she needs to feel in control so I am working at retaining control of my life while supporting the illusion that she controls it. I have a lot of love for her which I have demonstrated during the last 7 months. I would be surprised if anyone else had stuck with this after what she has dished out to me. Along with love I care about her welfare. There is also an intense connection with empathy and vivid telepathy. I imagine all of this can be advantageous while assisting with her healing.
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Hello V: I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

Another forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships & communication forum. Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...communication/

I'm sorry I don't know anything about this. And I couldn't find much of anything on RAD in PsychCentral's archives. However here's a link to the one article I did find:

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/r...rder-symptoms/

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I would not hesitate to ask her to get into therapy if her condition (which may be Reactive Attachment Disorder or completely something else, like an immunological disorder) is affecting people around her.
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I deeply love someone with RAD. I just realized her behavior fits this perfectly. I'd like to help her out. She has been dangerous as she exerted control over me but the way she orchestrated it was also genius. This is all new to me. After describing her behavior a friend identified it with Attachment Disorder. I now have something concrete to research.

As I said, I deeply love this person. I feel I can help her in some way. I could very well fit a model vulnerable to manipulation by someone with this condition. I am an empath. I know she needs to feel in control so I am working at retaining control of my life while supporting the illusion that she controls it. I have a lot of love for her which I have demonstrated during the last 7 months. I would be surprised if anyone else had stuck with this after what she has dished out to me. Along with love I care about her welfare. There is also an intense connection with empathy and vivid telepathy. I imagine all of this can be advantageous while assisting with her healing.

How do you even know?



Maybe you're a jerk who is the control freak. It sounds like you're trying to change her. You're diagnosing her like you've got a degree but you don't that's not love... If you loved her, you'd accept that what she's saying to you, which is likely, "hey I don't appreciate the way you do __________ because it makes me feel like__________", is perfectly acceptable, and that you really need to change your habits, and stop gas-lighting her.
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Old 08-17-2018, 10:38 PM   #5
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How do you know this person? Are you a male that loves her or a female friend that loves her? Whatís your history with this person? If itís R.A.D. Normally they have a hard time seeking out love from people. Often they find one person they trust and hold on to them. Itís hard for people with R.A.D. to accept love. So if this person loves you back, or seeks love out of you, feel honored. These people were neglected as babies and it carries into adulthood. I have a history and I had a hard time accepting love. It was hard to have a relationship. Iíve found two people (besides my children) that I care deeply about. My husband and one other person thatís a friend. Most of the time I feel unloved and undeserving of it so push people away. So if I love you, I mean that and want that relationship. But it doesnít always go both ways, which leads to disappointment and makes me feel again, not loved.
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