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Old 10-07-2017, 08:38 PM   #1
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I've noticed lately a pattern that I've had since I was young. I get so attached to motherly females who are usually around the age of 30-40. Normally, they are teachers, counselors, or just random people that seem to care. I know it may sound weird to some people. I was wondering if anyone has experienced this? I was in foster care and I didn't really have nurturing or healthy attachments as a child. I'm wondering if it could be because of that. For the people that can relate to this, would have your experiences been like. I would love to hear from you. It's nice to know you are not going through things alone.
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I think that's pretty normal. I actually have a mother, but she's not that great really struggles with alcoholism. As a result I am attracted to mother figures because I didn't get the mothering I needed growing up. You are not alone in this.
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I think people who didn't have a true mother tend to get attached to mother figures.
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I am mother and I have a natural instinct to want to be caring and even protective for those younger, its very natural and instinctual. I am sure it's an energy easy to feel and reciprocate, all part of the human experience that connects us all.
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I've noticed lately a pattern that I've had since I was young. I get so attached to motherly females who are usually around the age of 30-40. Normally, they are teachers, counselors, or just random people that seem to care. I know it may sound weird to some people. I was wondering if anyone has experienced this? I was in foster care and I didn't really have nurturing or healthy attachments as a child. I'm wondering if it could be because of that. For the people that can relate to this, would have your experiences been like. I would love to hear from you. It's nice to know you are not going through things alone.
I relate to this, just with father figures. Any slightly older male guardian figure (teachers, those who cared), I would get attached to, seek the approval of, look for guidance in. I don't think it's necessarily weird even if it's a sign of something unhealthy underneath I need to work through. My father was fairly emotionally distant/abusive throughout my growing up, so that probably played a huge role in all this.
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I have exactly the same. Sometimes I get very worried that I am too dependent on the person and what will happen should that person no longer be in my life
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I've been getting the opposite feeling for years, indeed.

I feel inferior standing next to motherly females (specially if under 50, also men in general). I dislike feeling pitied or not being able to hide an image that shows me as if needing to be fixed, condescended, patronized, or taken care of.

I perceive most of caretakers I dealt with as a child were insincere or neglectful with me, as if they didn't realize(or didn't care) about how unrealistic and misguided my ideas and conceptions of the world were. So, when I feel somebody is coming at me wit a patronizing image, I'm prone to get defensive if there's no good reason to justify the attitude.
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