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Unread 04-20-2017, 10:03 PM   #1
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My anxiety is flaring up so much this month, I don't know why. I always have these flare ups every second month, just when I think I'm doing better I get reminded that I'm not. I'm socially anxious at every turn. Every time I say something, I regret what I said. I've gone quiet now in rooms, because I'm afraid I'll say something stupid. I feel like everyone is privately criticizing me around me even though logically, they may not be. Especially among my classmates in my tight-knit theatre program. Lately I've been really mad and judgmental in my head at my perpetual sadness and complaining... I keep having thoughts that many people would be privileged to be in my position in life in comparison to where other people are in the world...and then I feel so guilty for not being grateful. Just today while analyzing a piece of play text, someone in my class said "people complain in order to obtain status" the day after I cried in front of another classmate saying I felt lost in life. I can't help but feel like I fit that description, even though it may not have been intended to be jab at felt like it. I don't know how to stop these thoughts.
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I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. You're not alone. I have social anxiety and tend to avoid social events. You are trying and that shows courage. I have an anxiety textbook that I need to find but it has a list of statements you can tell yourself before, during and after events that give you anxiety. It has been helpful to me in the past. Hugs coming your way.
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It's hard to manage this. Do you see a counselor at school? That may help.
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Hello jaz: Well... there is a school of thought that says trying to stop or "stuff down" or simply forget intrusive thoughts just makes them keep coming back stronger & more frequently. This is a Buddhist perspective. An alternative is to allow them to arise & fade at their own pace & to accept them with compassion. This is a practice called compassionate abiding. Here's a link to a mental-health-oriented description of the practice:

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In cultivating compassion we draw from the wholeness of our experience—our suffering, our empathy, as well as our cruelty and terror. It has to be this way. Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. Pema Chödrön- The Places That Scare You
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