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Old 03-16-2019, 04:50 PM #11
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, xmascarol It's definitely not easy to cope with death. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm so sorry you and your mother have suffered so much as well. From what you wrote it seems like you feel a bit guilty about it, like you haven't been doinf enough to help her. Please don't feel guilty. It's not your fault. From what you wrote it's clear that she was neglecting herself as well. We can help people only if they want to get help as well. You've tried your best by being there to support her and by calling her and saying that you loved her. You've been a wonderful daughter. I'm sure of that. I'm so sorry you're struggling so much right now. Take your time. It will take time before you'll feel a bit better about it. Please don't give up. You're a strong, wonderful person, xmascarol. Please remember that. Keep honoring your mother and remember to take care of yourself as well. I promise you that you will feel better at some point. Many people go through this, so you're definitely not alone in this. I agree with what all the others have already wisely said better than I ever could. You've been given some great advice on this thread. I'd suggest to follow it if you can. I'm sure you can do this. We all care about you here. We all love you here. We won't judge you. I promise you that. Stay strong, xmascarol. Stay safe and take care of yourself. You're awesome! You're strong! You're a warrior! Try to hang on. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let me know if I can do something to help you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, xmascarol. You don't deserve to suffer like this. I hope you'll be able to get the help you need and deserve. You're a strong, wonderful person, I know that
I dont know why but I feel like it is my fault she died.Does that make any sense to you?She was 91 see ever since my dad died almost three years ago she has wanted to die.She kept asking everyone to have God take her .I for one couldnt do that.You dont pray for someone to take a life.She was very religious .She would say her rosaries all day just about.Even though she believed in God she never preached to anyone.I have talked to my doctor but he doesnt say much.He understands how I feel other then that I dont know maybe he doesnt know what to say.JUst a little over a year and a half agoI lost my cousin who I was very close to when I was younger.She was 63.Was in a coma and never woke up.So in three years I lost my dad,mom and cousin. I am afraid to die.Always afraid I wont be dead when they go and cremate me.I have heard of cases where people have actually sat up in there coffins they were not dead. Well my mom didnt talk to me for about two weeks before she died.I remember talking to her home aid.She tried to get my mother to eat but she said no.I felt a little bit bad because she wouldnt talk to me however I know that she didnt want to talk to anyone,said nothing when my kids were there.She even cried over the phone to me that she wanted to die and would asks me how come GOd wouldnt take her.I just told her he wasnt ready for her yet.I did actually yell at her one time because all I would ever hear when I talked to her is I wish God would take me my kids would hear it to and they got mad.Cant say I blame them when you have to hear that every single day. I am giving you a hug my friend cause you are always so caring.I love you.always,Carol
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Well if you ever need to talk to someone I am here for you,I just want to help if I can.
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