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Old 01-10-2019, 11:52 AM   #1
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Why can't i go out ??? Why is it so hard for me ? My electricity is on emergency and its running out . im on a payment meter for ekectricity . i have to go out but i don't want to . I've been putting it off all day . the shop is not close to where i live . im dreading it but i don't understand why .
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I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, cryingontheinside Please don't be so hard on yourself. It's not your fault. Agoraphobia is hard to deal with, and you certainly didn't ask for it. Please don't give up. Is there anyone that can do those tasks for you? Anyone that can help? A friend? A family member? I'm so sorry, I wish I could do more to help. Feel free to PM me anytime. Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you
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You might consider the exposure therapy. Take it in baby steps. My agoraphobia atm, is mild. Im afraid of walking outside of my home (alone) distances bigger than 1 mile. However, if Im accompanied by a support person, then I can walk as long as I want. The problem is our belief system. It is a bit "broken" and we have to fix it. Start doing what you are afraid of but slowly. In my case, I started walking alone for 1/3 of a mile, then half a mile, then a mile, and my next goal is 1,5 miles. Other things on my list is taking the bus, train, etc on my own for short distances, then longer distances. All of this is just a matter of time, so patience is essential.

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Why can't i go out ??? Why is it so hard for me ? My electricity is on emergency and its running out . im on a payment meter for ekectricity . i have to go out but i don't want to . I've been putting it off all day . the shop is not close to where i live . im dreading it but i don't understand why .
Hi I have very bad agoraphobia myself I wish I could suggest something but I am trapped myself.I hate not being able to go anywhere I am stuck inside this apt.
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Hi I have very bad agoraphobia myself I wish I could suggest something but I am trapped myself.I hate not being able to go anywhere I am stuck inside this apt.
Im so sorry that you experience this too. My daughter is staying with me for a while and i couldn't risk her sitting in the dark if the electricity went out so i forced myself but it was so hard , my anxiety levels are still very high even though i am safely back home now
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I think those are questions you need to answer for yourself cryingontheinside. although with more information I suppose others could help you determine what is so scary about your world right now. Hearing that you are taking small steps for yourself and your daughter is encouraging for me, as I have lived with agoraphobia for a long time. I am able to do what I need to do for myself but my life is very limited. I don't let my limitations effect the quality of my life though. I try everyday to expose myself to something new and to face my fears. This is very scary but has been a constant priority of mine. There are many places I aspire to visit and hope to one day have the courage to do so. Until then, I set small goals and try to make routines. I also keep rules for myself. You'd think I was a crazy if you saw me at the grocery store, but my rules for myself have allowed me to make easier and quicker decisions for myself when in high anxiety situations. Don't give up. You deserve a life that is comfortable and fulfilling for yourself and for your daughter.
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Im so sorry that you experience this too. My daughter is staying with me for a while and i couldn't risk her sitting in the dark if the electricity went out so i forced myself but it was so hard , my anxiety levels are still very high even though i am safely back home now
That is what I tell my doctors that my home is my safe place ,it is too.Why cant they understand out phobia?For us it is frightening to go out the door.Just because they can doesnt mean we can.
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I found this link on the web it has a lot of useful information that I think can help us, some of you may already know it but it might help with agoraphobia.

Home: How To Overcome Depression | How To Deal With Depression - How To Overcome Depression + Thrive Naturally

Also look for the overcome depression podcast, which I think is very positive from the same site. You can use TuneIn on your iPhone or Laptop.

Personally, the key message I get from the podcast is that we are not alone in this, and of course there are grades and levels, each of us is unique, but the same rules apply and are effective to changing the way we think so itís about not letting our thoughts control us. I know is easier said than done I suffer the same and is hard sometimes tenacious battle everyday but we have to become more care-free if to have some chance to enjoy the rest of our lives coexisting with our conditions.

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Im so sorry that you experience this too. My daughter is staying with me for a while and i couldn't risk her sitting in the dark if the electricity went out so i forced myself but it was so hard , my anxiety levels are still very high even though i am safely back home now
Just saying that if you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you.
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Just saying that if you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you.
Thank you so much. I'm really on a downer today . lots of negative and suicidal thoughts roaming around my head .
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