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Old 12-21-2018, 02:15 PM #1
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Both my parents were alcoholics. My father was high functioning and my mother was low functioning. She drank herself to death by the time I was 13. My sister took up drinking for some reason. I never did. I wonder why someone would since alcoholism runs in families. Why not avoid the possibility of becoming an alcoholic by never drinking?
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I don't think this is something we can fully control, AceRimmer... some people just pick up the habits and that's the way it goes. I don't think it's their fault. Others are able to avoid it. You never know what can happen in life. Sending many hugs to you
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Not being facetious here Ace, but I can tell you that personally I developed a taste for it early on, at my father’s knee as it were, before I had ever heard of such a thing as “alcoholism”. And once you do develop a taste for it, it can tend to sink its claws in pretty deep.
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I don't think this is something we can fully control, AceRimmer... some people just pick up the habits and that's the way it goes. I don't think it's their fault. Others are able to avoid it. You never know what can happen in life. Sending many hugs to you
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Something I've wondered about some too. I come from a pretty long line of alcoholics. Mopey mentions acquiring a taste for it I guess one way I'm lucky is that I've yet to find hardly any alcohol I care for the taste of (save for flavored drinks that mask the taste).

I do know that coming from a childhood with an alcoholic parent or parents, a lot of us bring a lot of emotional baggage and pain. And life isn't guaranteed to get any easier in adulthood. Maybe for whatever reason that's what they choose to numb their pain.
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Something I've wondered about some too. I come from a pretty long line of alcoholics. Mopey mentions acquiring a taste for it I guess one way I'm lucky is that I've yet to find hardly any alcohol I care for the taste of (save for flavored drinks that mask the taste).

I do know that coming from a childhood with an alcoholic parent or parents, a lot of us bring a lot of emotional baggage and pain. And life isn't guaranteed to get any easier in adulthood. Maybe for whatever reason that's what they choose to numb their pain.
I think you have a very good point there, Mr. Walker. And by all means continue to avoid the stuff.
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I don't drink 'hardly at all' for that very reason.
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Not being facetious here Ace, but I can tell you that personally I developed a taste for it early on, at my father’s knee as it were, before I had ever heard of such a thing as “alcoholism”. And once you do develop a taste for it, it can tend to sink its claws in pretty deep.
How old were you when you developed a taste for it? I had access to it when I was as young as 10. It was never locked up. I didn't know what alcoholism was but I knew it messed people up by seeing what it did to my mother. I wasn't going to end up like that.
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Good for you Ace. More power to you. I would say that by the time I was in my mid teens I was drinking wine with dinner and the occasional hot buttered rum. Come to think of it, that souns pretty good as I sit here waiting at the laundromat with rain running down my windshield...
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It can be difficult to resist the example set by parents. One grows up with that example, one sees it every day. That example can seem as natural and irresistible as the air one breathes.
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