[LeeeLeee]

I didn't identify until more recently either and I'm 48 years old. I believe we become fed up with toxic relating and having to defend our position all the time and things just crash.

While I do believe it's okay to set boundaries, I find myself having to justify them over and over. Whether it's being interrogated by complete strangers who find out that I'm not close to my family of origin, or saying "No," to something, or not wanting be the one doing all the legwork in a friendship because the various other persons "can't."

Hang in there. So glad you found this place.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry, Red daisy I'm glad you're finally starting to acknowledge this. Acknowledgement is the first step for healing. I hope things are going better for you and that therapy is helping. I hope writing here helps as well. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you

[Fuzzybear]

[Goforward]

I feel for you Red daisy. My dad was an alcoholic. We moved constantly pillar to post. It was years later after my own dependence on alcohol that I realized he was trying to get away from himself. That never works. My wish for you Red daisy is that you never blame yourself. I pray that you will not look back except to release the pain.