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Old 05-09-2018, 10:37 AM   #1
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Hi everyone, i am new here and one reason for being here is my alcoholic mother. She has been an alcoholic for 16 years, gave up for 6 and then 3 years ago she relapsed and this time its worse. The denial she is in is much worse than before and her relapse has brought up hard childhood memories and realisations for me and my siblings. My main problem is with guilt because even though my mum is extremely nasty to us all, selfish and cruel, I cannot seem to cut contact and feel guilty that I can't help her. just looking for advice and people in a similar situation, thanks.
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Old 05-10-2018, 01:27 PM   #2
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I would start by going to Al-anon and ACOA meetings if possible. That would be some help.

Realize that the only person that could change your mother is herself. It's not your fault that she is the way she is.
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Old 05-20-2018, 12:37 PM   #4
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Hello my situation is close to yours
She is an alcoholic since a long time but doesn't think it is a problem and i can't do much about it
She is not really nasty with me but only think about herself i am just here as her personal assistant for things she doesn't deal with (administrative stuff for example)
the worst thing is that we are leaving together for now but i feel bad because i am just waiting for her to retire and leave to her country of origins (at least for a few month)
I can't help myself but to stress other things i can't control (if she falls, ....) because i will be the one dealing with the consequence and helping her
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