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Old 01-30-2019, 04:03 PM  
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Default Re: Advice needed on triggering person?

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Originally Posted by Pinocchio46 View Post
I'm going to try to keep this as quick as possible. Basically, a good friend of mine helped me through a really tough time, she is a sweetheart and has never done anything bad to me. However she did start to distance herself because I think it got too much for her, I don't want to go and talk to her because I want to give her space until she is ready.

We go to the same University and although we're not in the same class we pass each other in the halls occasionally. Today she was sat in the same room as me, on the opposite side.

Whenever I see her I feel sick, I can literally feel the blood rush from my head and I feel psychically ill. I don't know if it's guilt for what I put her through, shame, or maybe a little of both. I don't want to discuss this with her, because I want to give her the space she needs, she has already done so much for me.

But in your experience has there been anything you can do to minimise the stress and anxiety one particular person causes you, without discussing it with them directly?
I'm sorry for the situation that you have found yourself in. Unfortunately, I may not have the best advice, but I have been in your shoes and know what works best for me. I believe that the only significant way to ensure that these feelings don't present themselves is to remove yourself from the situation.

That space and distance may be the best for the both of you.
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