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Old 01-21-2019, 11:46 AM  
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Default Re: This has been a rough week~got triggered~

Originally Posted by Amethyst_Stargazer View Post
I met somebody new and they triggered me, simply by treating me how my ex boyfriend did. I didn't see any red flags or warning signs before hand. We were talking, having a blast talking and getting close to one another. Over the course of getting to know him, things just blew up in my face. He started getting short with me, having a temper, making me feel as if I did something wrong~ when I know I didn't and simply treating me poorly. When I mentioned how he was treating me, he was being unreasonable and made it worse by getting angry at me. In the end, I stopped speaking to him because I realized what was going on.

I sobbed on the bed, felt huge anxiety and shaking and felt sick to my stomach by the way he was treating me and speaking to me. He was very demanding and cold towards me and I didn't do anything to hurt him. I let my guard down because I'm focusing on healing and now I know I need to be a little bit more careful when it comes to people and who I accept into my life. This was simply one person who I met who has done this to me. The rest of my friends respect my boundaries and we have no issues speaking to one another. He however triggered me the entire time. By the way he was speaking to me and being demanding. He reminded me a lot of my ex and all I can say now is that I'm glad he's out of my life now.

I'm feeling a lot happier today. That's very good. Considering the last three days or so, I felt sick to my stomach and had horrible anxiety. Thanks to those who's reading this and supporting me. Sometimes you just have to be careful who you speak too, overtime they will reveal their true colors. The moment someone treats me unfairly again, I'm not even going to try to speak with them, I'll just block. Talking with Abusers is nearly impossible and exhausting. And I'm sure others can relate with me.
I am SOOO glad I just saw your post-if you are interested you can read mine under CARETAKER HAS PTSD AND ELDERLY PARENT RAISED VOICE. Iím going through exactly what you are but with my mother. Because I vowed to myself that I would never allow someone to verbally abuse me again, which I havenít the last 2 years, it is now VERY CONFUSING AND DIFFICULT to keep this promise because I drive my parents, and my 88 year old mother is starting her a busive ways towards me now that she is feeling scared and out of control.

I feel like Iím back in my abusive work situations where I had to take the abuse if I wanted to get a paycheck and survive. Because now she and my father support my living and therapy sessions. When I stood up to her, the next day they told me to decrease my therapy sessions and my mother has held a grudge since. I feel stuck-hv boundaries & things will be taken away. Try to ignore-impossible for someone with PTSD.

You did the right thing by ending it with the guy. I had to do the same recently with a lifelong friend who started being abusive with me-she had really stopped being a real friend the last 10 years, so the abuse made the reality quite clear. Thx for sharing and listening.
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