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Unread 09-08-2007, 07:41 AM   #1
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I am really traumatised by finding out that my husband has been exposing himself and masturbating in public, I don't know what to do about how I am feeling, has anyone experienced this ?
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Unread 09-08-2007, 09:20 AM   #2
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I haven't but he needs some serious mental help! not sure how I would react myself either. (((hugs)))
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Unread 09-08-2007, 04:16 PM   #3
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I'd say to find a therapist to get support for you, and suggest he goes to one too. ((((hugs from me too))))
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Ok, what's going on with him? What's going on with the two of you? WHY would he be doing that in public? He can be arrested and taken in if he's caught. That's a sex crime
in the eyes of the law. He could b e put on that sex offender
register if he's not careful. I would be mindful of that if I were you!!!
Taking him to therapy would be the answer. You're not doing that, why should you go???? Let him take responsibility for his actions. Ya gotta know he knows BETTER than that???
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Please get some therapy for both of you, him because he could be arrested as the others have already said , you because he is pulling you down
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I agree that a therapist should be sought out immediately. I would even make it conditional in any way that I could.

I'm sorry this has happened in your marriage and to you

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Hey. I haven't had anyone who I have known do that - but I have heard that it isn't all THAT uncommon. How did you find out about it? Did he tell you himself? How does he feel about it? Is he unhappy about it / does he want to change it?

I would say that if so... It would be worth going to a GP to get a referral on to see a psychologist / psychiatrist who has some experience with treating the disorder. Hopefully your husband will be able to come to an understanding of why he does it (what he gets out of doing it) and will figure out alternative ways of getting whatever he needs without doing that.

This must be fairly distressing for you. Hang in there, though, people with this kind of disorder can be helped.
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Ummmm!!!!!!! What kind of disorder would this be???? I fail to recognize those symptoms whatsoever. You mean
exhibitionism??? He can get himself into alot of hot water
by those standards. Does he know what he's doing? I find
it hard to believe that he doesn't know any better!!!

I would be really angry right now. I would be more concerned about what it would do to the marriage, then any
thing else. How are you supposed to handle him? Have you asked him why???
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it would be classified as a kind of sexual disorder. exhibitionism is a sexual disorder according to the diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders. you know the DSM, it is the manual that validates bi-polar and schizophrenia and depression and post traumatic stress etc as mental disorders.

isn't it strange how those with mental disorders... can be those who are most likely to judge and find the behaviour of people with other kinds of mental disorders reprehensible.

why does the kleptomaniac steal?
why does the depressive shun friends who are trying to cheer them?
why does the person with social anxiety not accept invitations to do things?
why does someone expose themself in public?

i'm fairly sure that the person who posted here is feeling pretty badly about the situation (otherwise - why on earth would they be posting here?????)

it is not them who is doing the exposing... but even if it were...

i understand everybody has their own %#@&#!... but none of that is this persons fault.
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I don't believe anyone suggested it was the posters fault at all. that belongs to her husband. what she does with the information she now knows is up to her. personally yes this man needs some serious help. right away before he gets himself arrested and smears her name right along with his.
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