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Unread 02-14-2011, 11:04 PM   #1
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For the past year of my life I have been having reoccurring fantasies about a father having a sexual relationship with a daughter. Sometimes I go into a lot of detail in these fantasies. The whole foreplay leading up to sexual intercourse. I find it's a major turn on for me and I find it very romantic and passionate. I know it is wrong and I feel ashamed about it. I feel like there is something wrong with me for thinking like this. My father has never been a part of my life, and I have never had a father figure. I don't know if this has anything to do with it or not. I would like to know why I think like this and what I can do to stop thinking about this.
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Unread 02-15-2011, 02:11 PM   #2
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Wow- I salute your bravery for sharing this.

My feeling is that this fantasy is a way of expressing something, nobody but you and possibly a therapist can figure out what. But I can tell you with confidence it is not about your desire to sleep with your father. It would be different if this were a fantasy about a father that you grew up with. But it's not. I think there is some room to be less literal here and think about it as a yearing for power, protection, maybe specialness or intimacy..
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I echo lastyear's statement about you being brave to share this...it is a very taboo topic and obviously uncomfortable for you.
You are probably right about it relating to your lack of father figure in some way, but I am not qualified to even guess at in what way.

It is also a double-bind, the more you try not to think of something, the more you end up thinking about it. You mention feelings of romance, passion and shame - all of which are very powerful and may explain why you find these thoughts compulsive.

Fantasies, by definition, often involve things which we would never actually do - that is partly what makes them so enticing. Many people fantasize about rape or other sexual acts they would never contemplate in real life.
As long as the line between fantasy and reality is always clear, there is no harm in them, except in the anxiety they cause you yourself.

I would suggest try to relax and accept your fantasy for what it is - just a mental diversion which you enjoy and which does not make you a sexual deviant - no more than my fantasies of scoring the winning goal in the world cup final make me a great footballer, sadly...

Please don't think I am making light of your anxiety - I can imagine how it must trouble you, but it is very hard to eliminate a thought pattern and easier to learn to live with it and not beat yourself up over it.
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For the past year of my life I have been having reoccurring fantasies about a father having a sexual relationship with a daughter. Sometimes I go into a lot of detail in these fantasies. The whole foreplay leading up to sexual intercourse. I find it's a major turn on for me and I find it very romantic and passionate. I know it is wrong and I feel ashamed about it. I feel like there is something wrong with me for thinking like this. My father has never been a part of my life, and I have never had a father figure. I don't know if this has anything to do with it or not. I would like to know why I think like this and what I can do to stop thinking about this.
You are not alone; I have fantasies about the same thing. It is never about me and my own father, however. I also know that it is wrong and I have not told a single person about it in my everyday life.

I'm so happy to know that I'm not alone in this one, though.
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I too have had fantasies about incest as well as other sexual situations that are fine in fantasy but I know I would never do in reality.
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I too have had this happen to me. For me, my father did in fact molest me so I think that is part of it. But I also think that a far higher number of humans have fantasies about sexual things that most would consider to be taboo, or even plain wrong. ITs when you come to a point where you feel an overwhelming urge to indulge this or any fantasy that you need to consider it to be an issue. Im not saying its not an issie and your being siilly - its obviously something thats concerning you and I can understand that as well. But i truly think you are ok here - there could be a million reasons for this type of fantasy, not all are problematic.

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Maybe its got something to do with the fact that your father was absent. You do not have the father daughter relationship as a familiar inner concept and translate it to what you are familiar with - a relationship with a man. Sex is about intimacy. Maybe you crave to have intimacy with a father and that desire / need as expressed as a sexual one. I wonder also what was your first encounter with a man like?
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Is it possible you just like older men, and the "father" aspect is only symbolic?
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Why does this short thread have so many views?

I sorted the forum on (by) viewcount out of curiosity, and got this.

Why so?

Usually, high view count correlates with high post count. But this is just a few posts. Why?
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More common then you think. I met a girl in her 30's still has a daddy fantasy and she even likes to be spanked. I had no idea it was so common with women.
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