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Unread 04-08-2012, 02:30 PM   #21
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but is that a bad thing? to go after men like your father? if thats what im doing....well in some ways, but not my dads flaws. what do you mean the reasons are the same?
Transference usually means that you're projecting qualities (good or bad) of someone else or qualities you need on the object of your transference. It doesn't mean that the person necessarily actually has those qualities. Learning to identify your own projections/needs will help you see people as they really are, not how you project them to be. That way, you can have healthier relationships in the future.
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i am just sooo very glad i never wanted to seduce my t and i never once got the feeling he wanted to seduce me.

i would have ran for the hills and screamed
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I honestly don't think my guy is seducable. Or would it be seducible? Both are showing up wrong on the spell check thing. I feel like I could offer him some form of sexual activity every time I see him and the answer would always be no, though I think he'd be nice about it the first few times. There's a certain comfort in that feeling.
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I honestly don't think my guy is seducable. Or would it be seducible? Both are showing up wrong on the spell check thing. I feel like I could offer him some form of sexual activity every time I see him and the answer would always be no, though I think he'd be nice about it the first few times. There's a certain comfort in that feeling.
seductable. i love my pscyhe, i honestly dont care about the whole patient thing anymore as i feel we've resolved alot of my father things now, but hes still awesome as a person to me
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Your feelings are understandable, they happen in therapy. But I agree with all those above - please don't act on this! It's not fair to him, or to yourself. You are there for help. Let him know about these feelings in an honest way, and have him help you work through it. I've been there myself, I know it's hard. Good luck to you.
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I wish I could offer you some good avice, but I have been deeling with the same feelings with my ex t for years......
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....without making it explicit that youre doing so?

i adore mine, im going to hit on him without making it obvious, how might one go about this? light-hearted question, with a hint of seriousness
Male therapists... they read the feelings all over you and the hints and ignore them. Therapy is for exploring feelings and not acting on them as my therapist says but in my head he's my husband haha. I really wish there weren't boundaries in therapy, I could find seducing therapeutic
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Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease listen to me so very carefully.....my former t crossed the line with me and although I wanted it at the time, it was the worse mistake I have ever made. You will never know the pain and confusion that follows and believe me, after a little while, it isn't all you think it would be cracked up to be. 2 yrs on I am still suffering for it and if I could change one thing it would be what we did together. I have never been the same.

I pray you never go through the same thing.
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