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Unread 04-16-2012, 01:54 PM   #1
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Default A husband who shouts and curses, and breaks every thing when he gets mad

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I,m really tried of my husband who curses , puts me down, shouts at me even in front of my son who is an innocent 8 year old kid, and breaks every thing. I can surely say 60-70% of the time he is with me he is angry: he believes I make him angry. Giving you an example, I can not set my alarm clock, because when it goes off he wakes up and breaks the clock. He has broken my previous cell phone because it went off, of course he was at the room and I was in the hall, but still my cell did not survive. I can not talk about any problem cause in his opinion I get on his nerve. I have to deal with every thing myself, and if I have any problem, I must hide it because he will worsen the situation in case if he knows it. My son does not like him too
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Unread 04-16-2012, 02:42 PM   #2
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Hello GOOGOOLI, sounds like abuse. You might find this forum helpful Survivors of Abuse. Welcome to Psych Central.
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Read the Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans; ;I believe it should be required reading for everyone on the planet. Abusers are very angry (and NOT at anything having to do with other people); they have issues they have never dealt with. THey usually don't change, unless they get into long-term therapy.

Verbal abuse will kill you physically and emotionally. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group, and escaped a 31-year verbally abusive "marriage."

Abusers are excruciatingly insecure and will do and say anything to CONTROL...that is the issue behind abuse.

Get into counseling for yourself AND your son (NEVER go with an abuser; they rarely will go, anyway).

Unfortunately being abused sets you up for becoming an abuser or marrying one . Your son's life is being changed every day. I wish i had had the knowledge that I do now.

Hope you will get into counseling and help yourself and your son. Your husband' behavior is not likely to change, and you need help, resources and skills to make some good decisions. Hugs
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Hi GOOGOOLI, Welcome to PC, This is mental abuse, I know it may be difficult but can you get away from this relationship?
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It is not your fault.

You cannot change him.

Consider building a better life for you and your son.
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