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Unread 03-23-2009, 05:09 PM   #1
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I just get turned on watching other guys getting it on with each other and jerking off. I have had sex with bi and straight men. I don't fit in with gay men and their culture but like regular guys. What's going on?
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Unread 03-24-2009, 12:28 PM   #2
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There isn't any sat "gay culture" it's not all what you see on tv and in movies.
Not all of us talk with a lisp, wear tight jeans and act like sl*ts. It's mostly just a sterotype. There are gay guys who are "regular guys" as you put it. You can't actually tell if someone is gay just by looking at them in real life... We aren't walking around with signs over our heads or something.
Everyone has a "type" some people like blondes, redheads, people who are funny, tall, short etc and it's no different with homosexuals. I prefer if a guy is taller than me and I like skaters...
Liking the general "mans-man" just means that thats you type.
It's a matter of what you like in a partner...
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I agree with MittenXonXKittens. All of us aren't stereotypical "gay men". I like a man that's masculine and just a regular guy. A feminie guy is a real turn off to me so I don't get into that and don't go places if that's the kind of guy that's there. There are some guys out there that are bi but only hang out with straight or married men because they feel that will prove they aren't gay. What difference does it make anyway. If you enjoy masturbating with other "regular" guys, enjoy yourself.
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i think everybody is bi - anywhere from almost not to full on the other way. but the deal is in what you choose for yourself. does feeling turned on by this create problems for you? you want to talk more specifically - go ahead a email me.
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I just get turned on watching other guys getting it on with each other and jerking off. I have had sex with bi and straight men. I don't fit in with gay men and their culture but like regular guys. What's going on?
Could be you are sexually experimenting; does not necessarily mean that you are gay, just HUMAN. Do you find pleasure with women? Do you enjoy climaxing with women? Enjoy!
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I agree with you in the sense that everyone has the potential to be sexually attracted to both sexes. I don't mind being naked with another male but would feel embarrassed naked with a woman. I would feel complete sexually with another man only if I can have more than just sex. I have been with women on an emotional level but when I perceive that they are sexually attracted to me, I began to wonder what it would be like. I sense that I would feel separate yet linked because a woman is the opposite gender. I don't know. I guess I am just confused.

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I don't think I am experimenting because I am 42 and have been doing this for a long time, almost my whole life. I find pleasure in an emotional relationship with a woman, although when I perceive they like me, I begin to wonder but don't go for it. I enjoy climaxing with a man for sure. I feel that a man knows how to pleasure another man better than a woman since he knows about those parts which brings on an ejaculation.


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I just get turned on watching other guys getting it on with each other and jerking off. I have had sex with bi and straight men. I don't fit in with gay men and their culture but like regular guys. What's going on?

Maybe you just like straight forward non stereotypical blokes Joe, most of us dont fit into the 'Queen' stereotype.
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Maybe you just like straight forward non stereotypical blokes Joe, most of us dont fit into the 'Queen' stereotype.
I have been praying to God to save me from my sins as the wages of sin is death. That's why our lives end in death on this sin cursed earth because we are all sinners. But I want to be on the New Earth and so my desire now to have a relationship with a man is gone; however, I am left with this internet gay porn addiction. God has already saved me from binge drinking. I have not had a drop since New Year's Day 2009. God had made a complete change in me in reference to my addiction to alcohol. Now I will wait patienly for HIM in reference to my addiction to gay porn. God has taken out of me the desire to be with a man sexually alive and in person so I will wait, pray to God and beg HIM for Mercy and Plead to take away my sinful lust for porn and the need to masturbate constantly.

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What you are doing is what comes naturally to you. If derive pleasure from and have been doing it "for a while" then enjoy it. If at some point you want to try having sex with a woman, then try that. But it's obvious that you, at least at this point in your life want to be with men. Well at least want to continue masturbating while looking at men. I don't blame you It can be a lot of fun! It's very simple really you find men sexy. That's all.

Your feeling are normal. Your image of what a gay man should be may be a little misguided. We come in all shapes, sizes and behaviors. We don't all like to dress up in dresses or wear make up or are beefy and muscular or geeky or leather men, and so on and so on...

I haven't met many men that are the same, some are finance, some government worker, other janitors, office manager, football and baseball and my favorite, rugby players, doctors, you name a gay man is probably in there somewhere.

I feel you question is whether or not you are gay. You're confused because you may prefer men to women. If indeed you feel that you are committing a sin, then there's your problem. I don't believe for a second that God feels being gay is wrong, that my friend, is a construct of men. Not of God. May I suggest you see someone other than clergy to talk to about this.

You are still attracted to men. You could try as you might, little by little to push it down into your subconscious, but at this it sounds more like you are convincing yourself that you are going to be with women to avoid hell.

Personally, I think it's a bad plan, but good luck with that one. Listen sex with another man is not a sin, in fact, many men and women that have trying to become ex-gays through the religious route, fail eventually.

If indeed you like both men and women, then you may be bisexual. But from what I have read, it sounds like you lean toward men, and are uncomfortable with the "idea" of being gay. I don't know what your situation is in your personal life.

But there are many men, who have had limited exposure to the gay world and way too much exposure to the images in the media. Very few of us are like Jack on "Will and Grace", and understand that if and when you decide to be yourself, and that person may be someone who prefers men. You will find that as long as you become accepting of it, you will be fine. You will be able to believe in your God, love God as He loves you and as He made you.

Your not going to hell. But at this point in your life, the sexual conflict going on in you must sure feel like hell. Take a deep breath, go talk with a therapist, try to figure this out without the guilt trip, stay clean, and enjoy your gay, bi, whatever life. Don't go into the straight world because you think, not feel, because you THINK you have to. Many marriages fail because of this and then everyone is hurt and feels they have lost everything. Be careful about this is all I say.

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