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Unread 02-28-2009, 03:41 PM   #1
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Hi, my girls are 7 & 11 and have never had or been to a sleepover because my husband thinks something bad could happen to them. I have mixed feelings but my daughter thinks she's missing out. I told her that we can't allow it because her father is so dead set against it. Is there anyone else who thinks that way.
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Looking out for our children today has become a huge priority with all the media reports and the fact that most criminal assaults towards children are by someone they know, even a relative. I really feel your husband's fears are quite realistic.

My children are grown but I do have grandchildren and they do have sleepovers but only with children of parents my daughter knows well.

I think your younger one may be a bit young for a sleepover but the older girl could have one at home and in the meantime perhaps you and your husband could work to get to know the parents of your child’s friends. This might go some way to reassure your husband. But I understand his point of view. We can never be too careful about who we leave our children with.
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me and my two sisters went to many sleepovers and all of them were fine. that said, my parents knew our friends' parents, and there was always adult supervision.

safron's idea is a good one - maybe invite your elder one's friends over for her own sleepover? that way she won't miss out, and you can also keep an eye on things.

personally, i do think your kids miss out on a lot if they aren't allowed to go to sleepovers.
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I know with my kids . My daughter I made it at a certain age she could go to them.
But I had to know the parents very well.
I also made sure there was not too many kids there other wise how can they watch them all .
When my daughter had friends sleep over it was only a few at a time.
I knew every one of the parents and had all thier phone #s in case something came up.
I also did not go to sleep till they did.
I remember being young lololol

imo 7 is a little young
imo the 11 year old should be ok
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This is so hard for kids to miss out on, they feel so left out when everyone is talking about them on Monday morning. Even if they were boring, somehow reliving them is much more fun. How about hosting one yourself?
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I would suggest that you let your daughter have a sleep over over at your house and see how it goes... then you can slowly work up to your daughter sleeping over at a friends house - after you get to know & trust the parents and the child.
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I let mine go on sleep overs the youngest I let them go was seven however I only let them go when I know the father is not going to be there....

I also hold alot at my house it saves the worry.
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Hi Tishie,
thanks for the reply. He is even dead set against having one at our house because he's paranoid about- what if the kid would make up a lie. I do know some of the parent of my childrens freinds well but, he still opposes it. He always uses the case which was on the news 6 months ago of the father who used to serve juice laced with drugs and then he would assault the girls. He's not going to budge on this and I'm not going to worry about it anymore.
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Hi, my girls are 7 & 11 and have never had or been to a sleepover because my husband thinks something bad could happen to them. I have mixed feelings but my daughter thinks she's missing out. I told her that we can't allow it because her father is so dead set against it. Is there anyone else who thinks that way.

Sounds like the husband here has some issues he needs to resolve.

If this sleep over is at a friends house where you KNOW the parents well and the children well then there should be no issues. Also make sure your children know they can call you at any time to to come home and you will come get them.
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Know matter how well you know them they can still be abusers .....

How about if he went away for the night and then you can have their friends over that way they will not feel diff to their friends.
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