Psych Central

Go Back   Forums at Psych Central > Mental Health Support > Depression



advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
Unread 05-09-2013, 09:11 PM   #1
UnWise Elder
 
shortandcute's Avatar
shortandcute doesn't say "AAAHHH" for nuthin'.
 
Member Since: Aug 2011
Location: Washington State, U.S.A.
Posts: 2,441 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood:

3 yr Member
2,131 hugs
given
Mad I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

My brother in law came by for a visit, which usually doesn't bother me. But today, I guess it was time for him to tell me what for!
According to him, I suffer from depression because:
1. I don't spend several hours a day reading my Bible.
2. I don't "talk about the Bible enough"
3. I'm not quoting scripture enough.
4. I'm not going around trying to force Bible studies on younger women.
5. ....and I'm not over at their house all the time wanting them to "teach me about the Bible."

They were my legal guardians for my last 2 years of high school, and yes, I did love reading the Bible because I found it fascinating. I even memorized a lot of scriptures. But that is all he remembers; he doesn't remember that they always thought I was living in secret sin because I was suffering from depression at that time too.
__________________

shortandcute is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Unread 05-09-2013, 09:59 PM   #2
anonymous8113
Guest
anonymous8113 has no updates. Edit
 
Posts: n/a
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Oh, Short and Cute, how sad that you would be exposed to that. Christianity isn't
like that at all in healthy people. Please don't pay any attention to that kind of behavior. It's ignorance par excellence, in my view.

And don't let it discourage you from your love for Christianity. It's a life saver for
many of us, and it isn't what your brother-in-law proposes. Please believe that.

Keep in touch with your psychiatrist and follow his/her instructions about your
health. You will get a clear view of yourself and your family members through healing with psychiatry and medications.

Take care.
  Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Unread 05-09-2013, 11:03 PM   #3
Member
 
will19's Avatar
will19 has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2012
Posts: 418
My Mood:

2 yr Member
68 hugs
given
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Short and Cute - I hope you didn't really mean it when you titled "I guess I really AM and awful Christian!!!" Because you are not an awful Christian.
You are worthy a lot as a person and a Christian. Anyone who would tell you that you are an awful Christian is being very judgmental and more likely that they are the awful ones.

I've heard the whole bit of having depression because of not being right with God or not getting into Him enough. That's just hooey!

Go on and just be yourself! I think you are doing great!
will19 is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Unread 05-09-2013, 11:10 PM   #4
Member
So hopeful has no updates.
 
Member Since: May 2013
Location: US
Posts: 114
7 hugs
given
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Many Christians and other believers in God suffer from depression. There are so many candid, profound, helpful and deeply inspiring books written by Christians on the subject of depression. I'd be happy to send you some titles if you like.
So hopeful is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Unread 05-10-2013, 07:13 AM   #5
Elder
 
Rohag's Avatar
Rohag is updating.
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Posts: 7,114 (SuperPoster!)
5 yr Member
2,742 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Quote:
Originally Posted by will19 View Post
...more likely that they are the awful ones.
Agreed.

Hmmm...? I wonder if somehow they need you to feel bad about yourself in order to support their own view of themselves? Just speculating...
__________________
My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
Rohag is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Unread 05-10-2013, 11:04 AM   #6
UnWise Elder
 
shortandcute's Avatar
shortandcute doesn't say "AAAHHH" for nuthin'.
 
Member Since: Aug 2011
Location: Washington State, U.S.A.
Posts: 2,441 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood:

3 yr Member
2,131 hugs
given
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Quote:
Originally Posted by Rohag View Post
Agreed.

Hmmm...? I wonder if somehow they need you to feel bad about yourself in order to support their own view of themselves? Just speculating...
Sounds about right!Ever since I can remember, they've always hated it when people didn't follow their belief system--even b4 they were Christians.
__________________

shortandcute is offline   Reply With Quote
Hugs from:
Unread 05-10-2013, 01:44 PM   #7
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear in my cave
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 51,123 (SuperPoster!)
10 yr Member
9,355 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

__________________
Fuzzybear is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Unread 05-10-2013, 02:35 PM   #8
Perpetually Pondering
Community Liaison
 
healingme4me's Avatar
healingme4me 'He who overcomes himself is strong.' -Tao te Ching
 
Member Since: Apr 2013
Location: New England
Posts: 15,558 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood:

5,133 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

To me, being a Christian has more to do with how we treat one another. How many hours you study the Bible, hmmmm...falls in line with actions speak louder than words and condemning you, my words--by virtue of what he said to you--, isn't Christian like, in my view.
I subscribe to the Golden Rule, and that's enough for me, to live by, ontop of whatever else a good Christian does. ((being charitable, giving isn't all about dollar donations, being kind to others, etc...))

You mention, before they were Christian?? What changed their worldview, if you don't mind my asking?

Quote:
Originally Posted by shortandcute View Post
Sounds about right!Ever since I can remember, they've always hated it when people didn't follow their belief system--even b4 they were Christians.
__________________
~F~
healingme4me is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Unread 05-10-2013, 02:55 PM   #9
Junior Member
Missy_H has no updates.
 
Member Since: Oct 2012
Posts: 12
2 yr Member
1 hugs
given
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Healingme4me is right. Reading and quoting scripture has nothing to do with how good a Christian you are.
Anybody can read the Bible and quote a verse. That doesn't mean they are good Christians.

Being a good Christian is about your actions. In fact, take the "Christian" part out of it and just be a good person. Treat others nicely. Do good things. Be kind and polite and don't judge others. That is far more important than reading and re-reading the Bible over and over again.
Missy_H is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Unread 05-10-2013, 04:08 PM   #10
UnWise Elder
 
shortandcute's Avatar
shortandcute doesn't say "AAAHHH" for nuthin'.
 
Member Since: Aug 2011
Location: Washington State, U.S.A.
Posts: 2,441 (SuperPoster!)
My Mood:

3 yr Member
2,131 hugs
given
Default Re: I guess I really AM an awful Christian!!!!!

Quote:
Originally Posted by healingme4me View Post
To me, being a Christian has more to do with how we treat one another. How many hours you study the Bible, hmmmm...falls in line with actions speak louder than words and condemning you, my words--by virtue of what he said to you--, isn't Christian like, in my view.
I subscribe to the Golden Rule, and that's enough for me, to live by, ontop of whatever else a good Christian does. ((being charitable, giving isn't all about dollar donations, being kind to others, etc...))

You mention, before they were Christian?? What changed their worldview, if you don't mind my asking?
It's kind of a long story behind how and why they became Christians, and I really don't remember all the details. But I do remember that even before that, if people didn't see things the way they did, they weren't "aware," they were "full of the bulls**t," etc. And even then they were always trying to "rescue" everybody. I remember a few years back, they were selling Tupperware, and my other brother-in-law told me one time, "I kept expecting ***** to start saying, 'Praise Tupperware,' 'Praise Tupperware.' "
__________________

shortandcute is offline   Reply With Quote
"Thanks for this!" says:
Hugs from:
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 10:06 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

advertisement

 

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice,
diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.
Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.

 

HomeAbout UsContact UsPrivacy PolicyTerms of UseDisclaimer
Forums HomeCommunity Guidelines Help

Helplines and Lifelines
eTrust Pro Certified