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Unread 03-25-2013, 08:49 AM   #1
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I don't know what else to do and I used to think I was at the end of my rope, I was wrong....this is an all time low. why doesn't my mother realize that the way she teats me reinforces my desire to hurt myself. I don't know how to get that across...I know I've done some messed up things, but shouldn't I be allowed forgiveness?......
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I don't know what else to do and I used to think I was at the end of my rope, I was wrong....this is an all time low. why doesn't my mother realize that the way she teats me reinforces my desire to hurt myself. I don't know how to get that across...I know I've done some messed up things, but shouldn't I be allowed forgiveness?......
Ever told her straight up, "You make me want to hurt myself"?

Don't know your mom, so I don't know if this would work.
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Forgiving yourself is more powerful than another person's forgiveness. Unfortunately, when you leave your mother behind, grow and move on, you will take "her" with you inside. She may be frightened and doing her best or what she thinks is right. A direct conversation----or a letter that gives her time to think it over before talking might be a way to open up communication. My kids are grown now, but they still sometimes use writing to let me know about the tough stuff. It works for us.
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..aliens don't understand..even "mother aliens"...we do understand, and have been there, and felt like you are right now in one form or another....go to your music..embrace it.
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I try to tell her straightforward, but she cuts me off with telling me that I'm being disrespectful, or mouthy....I swear I'll have to jump off a cliff for her to get it.....but thanks for listening to me.....
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I try to tell her straightforward, but she cuts me off with telling me that I'm being disrespectful, or mouthy....I swear I'll have to jump off a cliff for her to get it.....but thanks for listening to me.....
I'm sorry you're in this position. I understand that kind of powerlessness.
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parents mould their children without realising it ! You are going to stand up and tell her that what she is doing is not helping, that you have made mistakes in the past (havent we all !) and that you need her support now more than ever. Best Wishes to you.
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I try to tell her straightforward, but she cuts me off with telling me that I'm being disrespectful, or mouthy....I swear I'll have to jump off a cliff for her to get it.....but thanks for listening to me.....
Please don't jump of any cliffs, (without a parachute, she may not be able to hear you, time to turn to someone who can hear you, it is painful when the people we believe should most understand or care most are not there when we need them, perhaps so wrapped up in elsewhere they are not there at all.
Work at not banging your head against that wall, it will only hurt you.
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That sounds like my mother. ((hugs))
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