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Unread 07-31-2008, 12:48 PM   #1
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has being bipolar ruined your relationship? i have been with my husband for 7 years. i asked him for a divorce in march of this year. he is controlling and i got tired of it. he wanted us to go to counseling, i did not agree to it. he is going to counseling on his own nd has moved out the house. though lately i have been feeling like i want to work it out. i usually make decisions out of the blue. i mean i wake up and decide something and thats that. i don't give it a second thought. i am curious to know if anyone here experiences the same thing, making rash decisions because of how you feel at the moment.
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Unread 07-31-2008, 01:05 PM   #2
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hey agony. i'm not married, but the relationships with many of my friends of gotten strained. they dont understand and when i try to explain it to them, they think they know better. so i just dont say nothing anymore about it even when they ask.


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yes, yes, and yes..

I have made many bad spur of the moment decisions. I've also suffered the consequences. Think I would have learned my lesson?? Not yet, but I am thinking things out just a bit more before acting/speaking out.
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Lost every one of my friends. The girl in my life i don't think i can ever get close to. Pretty much no family.

Yep, my relationships have suffered
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Yep, my mood swings have made things pretty strained between and my family, and me and my boyfriend.
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Bipolar doesn't = dumb if you know you make rash decisions which I do as well don't make them ! I dont trust myself so I try to wait and walk away and give myself time to think or most the time if I don't I F up And most of all don't for any reason put money into my pocket !

I've been with my wife for 22 years and we did have a rough spot where my bipolar was very bad where i flet she turned her back on me and maybe she did but I know now that i was not the only one sick with bipolar she was as well but from the outside in .

There a song by blind melon ( No Rain) which is about living with someone you love who has bipolar and how it hurt both of you.
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thank you all for your input.

trippin- i am well aware that bipolar doesn't = dumb. and though one may recognize that they make rash decisions i think that it is still difficult to deter from the behavior because it seems almost uncontrollable. kinda of like a natural response to things. for me the decisions are not only rash and in the moment, i will feel whatever way it is for a while- days, weeks, months even. then something clicks and suddenty i change my mind and see that the way i justified my actions were wrong. but i am glad to see that you have been able to sustain your marriage despite the diffilcuties that come with being bipolar. i am working on changing my pattern of behavior so i hope to overcome this obstacle eventually some time down the road.
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Definitely yes! Hubby and I are ok, but we don't talk to anyone in his family for 2+ years. My family situation is strained as well. Don't have many friends who don't eventually leave. I hate being like this and I wish it would get better.
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My bipolar strained my marriage of 24 years and in 3 weeks the divorce will be final.
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The Bipolar hasn't ruined the marriage. I really don't expect it too either.

Here's why:
I know how I was before the Bipolar. So, when my behavior,attitude, and perceptions become altered - I am able to recognize it. At that point I let my wife know that I may be difficult and not realize it right away...and that it is ok for her to point it out to me. I promised not to take offense and so far this has been successful.

Yeah, It takes extra effort, but I want to stay married. A little extra honesty goes a long way. Just think about the last time you snapped at your partner because you had a headache or were tired and they were unaware of your current state. Instead, if you say, "honey, I can't deal effectively with this right now because I have a headache", your partner will be much more understanding.

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