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Unread 11-27-2010, 02:06 PM   #1
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Confused Why are women attracted to sociopaths?

Women seem to be drawn to sociopaths and I could never figure out why.

Does anyone have the answers?
 
Unread 11-28-2010, 12:01 AM   #2
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Women seem to be drawn to sociopaths and I could never figure out why.

Does anyone have the answers?
I have several answers for you, most of which appease my own ego.

Psychopaths are very charming. I'm not exaggerating or gloating, either. It's actually one of the criteria. Many psychopaths are so charming and cunningly deceitful that experienced criminal psychologists succumb to their charms to the point of giving them money, housing them, and even making attempts to get them out of prison. Again, I'm not gloating. There are case studies of this phenomenon.

A few other things... We live life on the wild side. Literally. Most women find this exciting, at least at first glance. We're also quite mysterious. However, this is usually because most of our stories are lies and consequently quite vague. Our self-created history is usually based off cliche roles (i.e., the abused child who grew up to donate millions to charity, the man who nearly escaped cancer and is now living like there's no tomorrow, the rags to riches businessman, and so forth). One would think people could see through these cliches and lies easily. But psychopaths are experts at playing on people's emotional needs and desires. We can and will play any role that we think will please our love interest, business partner, friend, or other such person. This illusion of emotional attachment (as well as a cokctail (sic) of other charms and thrills) can be so strong that it blinds the psychopath's partner of the inconsistencies in the psychopath's many stories and manipulative tendencies. Any person who watches this relationship from the sidelines can (and usually does) notice how manipulative the psychopath is.

I might add more to this later... It's getting late...
 
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I have several answers for you, most of which appease my own ego.

Psychopaths are very charming. I'm not exaggerating or gloating, either. It's actually one of the criteria. Many psychopaths are so charming and cunningly deceitful that experienced criminal psychologists succumb to their charms to the point of giving them money, housing them, and even making attempts to get them out of prison. Again, I'm not gloating. There are case studies of this phenomenon.

A few other things... We live life on the wild side. Literally. Most women find this exciting, at least at first glance. We're also quite mysterious. However, this is usually because most of our stories are lies and consequently quite vague. Our self-created history is usually based off cliche roles (i.e., the abused child who grew up to donate millions to charity, the man who nearly escaped cancer and is now living like there's no tomorrow, the rags to riches businessman, and so forth). One would think people could see through these cliches and lies easily. But psychopaths are experts at playing on people's emotional needs and desires. We can and will play any role that we think will please our love interest, business partner, friend, or other such person. This illusion of emotional attachment (as well as a cokctail (sic) of other charms and thrills) can be so strong that it blinds the psychopath's partner of the inconsistencies in the psychopath's many stories and manipulative tendencies. Any person who watches this relationship from the sidelines can (and usually does) notice how manipulative the psychopath is.

I might add more to this later... It's getting late...
Interesting. And probably true. Women are funny. They love the "bad boy" yet, they cry and complain when their calls and emails go unanswered.

I wonder how exciting it'll be for them once their bank accounts are empty and they're no longer considered useful?

And why let themselves get abused and not walk away? Self-loathing?
 
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I doubt most are like...."Um, hi! I am abusable Miss so n so...you...you're a psychopath ? if you ever sit n chat with Myers...He isn't like that here.He is engaging for no other visible reason than to chat in chat rooms about regular stuff.(Well placed smilie Myers ...LOL)

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O.o.........um... I doubt most are like...."Um, hi! I am abusable Miss so n so...you...you're a psychopath ?...um ..like can we date?"...LOL...And if you ever sit n chat with Myers...He isn't like that here.He is engaging for no other visible reason than to chat in chat rooms about regular stuff.(Well placed smilie Myers ...LOL)
I don't think women consciously look for someone who is abusive and controlling. And if you read Myers answers to other questions you will notice that he admittedly treats others like garbage. He admits to lying, abusing, cheating and screwing with people just for kicks. If you find him charming and interesting then you might be "falling for his act."

Remember, Meyers is a sociopath. However, he might be using "I'm an honest sociopath" as another form of manipulation to get what he wants. I believe Meyers is being honest in his answers but I need to question why a sociopath would want to expose his "tricks."
 
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I have read his posts,watched him engage with others.He has never been inappropriate,does not flirt with women,is married...and has manipulated not one person on site.He is honest...I would rather sit with him ..being up front..than people who are one thing in your face and whisper behind your back.Thats what you have to watch out for.~W~
 
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If you take the definition a bit beyond the scope of the DSM criteria and find an answer please post or PM me... I have found one of the quickest ways to determine if a man is a sociopath (in a more broad sense than DSM) is that I have dated them.

I do know one factor... for a smart chick I can be very nieve. My social skills are not congruent with what I have to offer a relationship... So... while I have a lot of good qualities my social skills keep me isolated. Many people with less than steller motives are able to hone in on me in a crowd very quickly. Someone with my qualities shouldn't be as alone as I am... May as well have a flashing neon light over my head!
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You do now lol...(Neon light )...lol
 
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@ Wolfsong:
at least here some of them warn me in their bio! LOL
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If you take the definition a bit beyond the scope of the DSM criteria and find an answer please post or PM me... I have found one of the quickest ways to determine if a man is a sociopath (in a more broad sense than DSM) is that I have dated them.

I do know one factor... for a smart chick I can be very nieve. My social skills are not congruent with what I have to offer a relationship... So... while I have a lot of good qualities my social skills keep me isolated. Many people with less than steller motives are able to hone in on me in a crowd very quickly. Someone with my qualities shouldn't be as alone as I am... May as well have a flashing neon light over my head!
Here are a few tips for your dating agenda:
1. Don't date anyone who is too sarcastic.
2. Don't lend anyone money.
3. Don't give out too much personal information too quickly.
 
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